[Since it sounds pretty much impossible for these two people to get along, a truce probably is the best solution. There's disagreements and then there's killing each other. Okay, but how to handle this. Geez, it's not like he's an expert on crap like this, but guess if he tried to think how she'd feel, place himself in her shoes...]
tell that person how you feel. like more than just 'i'm sorry,' but it sucks that you two fight and you care about them. make them follow that truce.
uh, you don't live with them, do you? because in that case, definitely find your own place.
I'm working on that. I'm just not great with words...
I live with one of them, but I have my own place too. I crash there sometimes and check on the place to make sure it hasn't been broken into or appliances aren't dead.
might help to write it out first? before just going straight in.
yeah, okay, take some time away from them. both of them. use that time thinking about what you want to say. also, easier said than done, but don't get mad.
i can speak from experience, getting angry just... doesn't help.
A little too late with the "getting angry" bit, but... yeah. I'm seeing that now.
Thanks for hearing me out, Scott, by the way. Sorry, that I'm not making myself known. I'm not really ready for that, either. I don't want my friends to get pissy and charge at them too with everything is still so fresh, you know?
yeah, i know that it sucks. just like 'why didn't i control my temper better back then?' it's not easy still, even now.
it's cool, i think i get it. although, i did just mention the whole controlling my anger bit and feels like i'd be disproving my point if i charged at your friends right after this.
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tell that person how you feel. like more than just 'i'm sorry,' but it sucks that you two fight and you care about them. make them follow that truce.
uh, you don't live with them, do you? because in that case, definitely find your own place.
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I live with one of them, but I have my own place too. I crash there sometimes and check on the place to make sure it hasn't been broken into or appliances aren't dead.
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yeah, okay, take some time away from them. both of them. use that time thinking about what you want to say. also, easier said than done, but don't get mad.
i can speak from experience, getting angry just... doesn't help.
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Thanks for hearing me out, Scott, by the way. Sorry, that I'm not making myself known. I'm not really ready for that, either. I don't want my friends to get pissy and charge at them too with everything is still so fresh, you know?
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it's cool, i think i get it. although, i did just mention the whole controlling my anger bit and feels like i'd be disproving my point if i charged at your friends right after this.
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We can go for sandwiches too.
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[It has really become his thing...]
and tell me how things turn out, alright?
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I will. Thanks again...